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What if you think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
The problem is you're being gaslighted.
The issue is you think you can't deal with confrontation.
The solution is confidence with emotional security.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
You ask yourself, “Am I weak?”
The real issue is not that you’re weak.
The real issue is - you’ve been gaslighted
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover
Emotionally insecure people are attracted to you because you’re empathic.
Is that a problem? No, it isn’t.
True empathy beyond the basics of feeling from another person’s point of view is an ability to feel your own feelings and to identify what they are.
Emotionally insecure people don’t want to do that. They never want to feel their own feelings if anything they want to do whatever is possible to avoid feelings
They do that by always being on the defensive.
So, when you reach out to them as you would anyone else, they use their defence strategies - such as ‘jokingly’ calling you too sensitive.
They normalise disruptive behaviour.
The backlash happens when they fear potential exposure of ANY vulnerability.
The same vulnerability that as an empath you would use for connection, because vulnerability means admitting feelings, being honest, wanting closeness.
Emotionally insecure people then make you wrong for wanting this connection, although at the same time they’re desperate for it.
You don’t realise when you’re being gaslighted because you assume other people have the same integrity you have.
Gaslighting is the systematic attempt by one person to erode another’s reality.
Gaslighters present false information to make their target doubt their own memory and perception, to the point where youhave to believe their version of events, even though you KNOW it’s not right.
When you’re gaslighted, you eventually doubt your own sanity. Your esteem is worn down.
Emotionally insecure people do this to you because, I repeat, they don’t want to own any vulnerability - or, if they’re especially prone to gaslighting, it’s because they don’t want to have to do anything properly, or be held accountable for any errors or problems in their life.
The key is to release traumatic bonding.
The backlash of emotionally insecure people doesn’t change unless you do.
Why? Because they love a drama.
Traumatic bonding happens in order to cope with living in a mad chaos.
You seek to cope by rationalising and excusing the othere person’s behaviour.
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was defending them:
“They’re not that bad”
You end up normalising disruptive behaviour.
It doesn’t work, because believing “There’s nothing wrong” only creates stagnation.
It will take a few goes – BUT
you will feel you can side-step the backlash of the emotionally insecure
Remember it’s not about perfect - it's about PROGRESS
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
What if you think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
What if you think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
The problem is you're being gaslighted.
The issue is you think you can't deal with confrontation.
The solution is confidence with emotional security.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
You ask yourself, “Am I weak?”
The real issue is not that you’re weak.
The real issue is - you’ve been gaslighted
In this episode we are resolving:
You’ll discover
Emotionally insecure people are attracted to you because you’re empathic.
Is that a problem? No, it isn’t.
True empathy beyond the basics of feeling from another person’s point of view is an ability to feel your own feelings and to identify what they are.
Emotionally insecure people don’t want to do that. They never want to feel their own feelings if anything they want to do whatever is possible to avoid feelings
They do that by always being on the defensive.
So, when you reach out to them as you would anyone else, they use their defence strategies - such as ‘jokingly’ calling you too sensitive.
They normalise disruptive behaviour.
The backlash happens when they fear potential exposure of ANY vulnerability.
The same vulnerability that as an empath you would use for connection, because vulnerability means admitting feelings, being honest, wanting closeness.
Emotionally insecure people then make you wrong for wanting this connection, although at the same time they’re desperate for it.
You don’t realise when you’re being gaslighted because you assume other people have the same integrity you have.
Gaslighting is the systematic attempt by one person to erode another’s reality.
Gaslighters present false information to make their target doubt their own memory and perception, to the point where youhave to believe their version of events, even though you KNOW it’s not right.
When you’re gaslighted, you eventually doubt your own sanity. Your esteem is worn down.
Emotionally insecure people do this to you because, I repeat, they don’t want to own any vulnerability - or, if they’re especially prone to gaslighting, it’s because they don’t want to have to do anything properly, or be held accountable for any errors or problems in their life.
The key is to release traumatic bonding.
The backlash of emotionally insecure people doesn’t change unless you do.
Why? Because they love a drama.
Traumatic bonding happens in order to cope with living in a mad chaos.
You seek to cope by rationalising and excusing the othere person’s behaviour.
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was defending them:
“They’re not that bad”
You end up normalising disruptive behaviour.
It doesn’t work, because believing “There’s nothing wrong” only creates stagnation.
It will take a few goes – BUT
you will feel you can side-step the backlash of the emotionally insecure
Remember it’s not about perfect - it's about PROGRESS
Give the Soul Directed Relationships Meditation a go, even if you’ve never done meditation before – just follow the words.
What if you think your problem is that you can’t deal with confrontation. You find yourself keeping quiet: you don’t express an opinion, or you agree when you don’t want to.
When the Orphan energy is active, you wait for the rescue that never happened, you feel lost, don’t know where you fit in, you settle for less than you want and you desperately want to go ‘home’ but you don’t know where home is.
The Orphan energy chooses you to create the ultimate rescue, the connection to the self, beyond self-abandonment and into interdependence, the safe, secure world of true self-esteem and value.
When the Magician energy is active, you have the ability to transform reality. It’s as though a magnetic field draws you to experiences that match your inner reality.
The Magician energy chooses you to connect with your healing potential and give you access to the unconscious world of wonderment, charm and the deeply connected spiritual self.
When the Lover energy is active, your soul is at odds with your careful ego. You live a life switching between conquering fear, taking risks and the excitement of your consciousness expanding, followed by flopping back into the safety of what you know.
The Lover energy chooses you to connect with your personal source of power that’s not a climb for position or authority, not a power over another but real power - the power within.
When the King energy is active, your inner world is conflicted. Each time you step into your own rules, you hear the voice of the King’s shadow – the tyrant suggesting you are less than, how you’ll never live up to expectations and the weakling ‘prince’ who doesn’t protect your new path.
The solution is to step into the energy of the true King, the matured ‘male’ energy offering centred, confident direction from deep within. The unconscious pressure to ‘fit in’ evaporates as you step into your own leadership. .
You’ve looked around, decided what you like, made judgements and now you’re going out on your own. Does what you want match with others or should you just become what you think they want?
This stage is answered through the process of Creating Your Own Values, by using your Queen Energy.
