You think no one can make you feel special... Time is running out for someone who makes you feel special, to appear in your life. So you look to distract yourself and pretend it doesn’t matter. The real issue is someone else CAN make you feel special, but you can’t hear it because there’s a mis-match of communication style
The problem is you think no one can make you feel special and time is running out for someone who makes you feel special, to appear in your life. So you look to distract yourself and pretend it doesn’t matter. The real issue is someone else CAN make you feel special but you can’t hear it because there’s a mis-match of communication style.
During this 30 minute session you will learn:
- How to Spot a 'Love Panic'
- Hope vs Real Love
- How to Recognise Empowering Love
Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.
You think no one can make you feel special, and that time is running out to find someone who does makes you feel that way to appear in your life.
So you look for ways to distract yourself and you pretend it doesn’t matter.
The real issue is someone else CAN make you feel special . . . but you can’t hear them because there’s a mis-match of communication style
In this episode we are resolving
From Panic to Empowering Love
- How to spot a Love Panic
- What’s Hope and what’s Real
- How to recognise Empowering Love
How do you spot a Love Panic?
There are two different psychological viewpoints of how people operate in relationships
Volcanic or Organic
Volcanic assumes people are a molten lava of uncontrolled unconscious impulses, ready to explode.
Organic assumes people are programmed to systematically move towards wholeness.
In the same wat aa seed somehow ‘knows’ it must to grow into a tree, humans have a sense of unconscious purpose they are driven to follow.
A Love Panic is triggered when you’re faced with the dilemma: is this relationship a volcano or a tree?
So, what’s hope and what’s real?
It’s pretty certain you’re more of a ‘tree’ consciousness, but you’ve been around A LOT of volcanoes. Conflict arises when you hope against hope that someone has a ‘tree’ consciousness, when really they’re a volcano.
You HOPE enough love will turn them into a tree but what’s REAL is they need to be understood as a volcano.
So how do you recognise Empowering Love?
The key is to realise everyone has their process.
Volcanoes don’t become tree people unless they own their emotions.
Most conversations between people are an exchange of fact. Love can only happen when conversations become emotions .
What I found I got sucked into for a long time was ignoring the fact that people are terrified of their emotions.
You end up judging yourself for your feelings when they stick to facts.
It doesn’t work because love requires feeling.
So what are three little things you can do to move from panic to empowering love?
- Assess the people currently in your life – are they’re a tree or a volcano? This will save you a massive amount of self- blame. Observe volcano people to see if they can become tree, but don’t assume you can MAKE anyone into a tree.
- Own your own simmering volcano. There are parts of you, you prefer to avoid. However, if you face them you’re then less likely to come across emotionally avoidant relationships.
- Accept you’re worthy Practice imagining only high quality relationships in your life - your unconscious will then seek to create them.
It will take a few goes, but you will feel you can
move out of panic into empowering love.
Remember it’s not about perfect: it's about PROGRESS.