What if the problem is you feel held up? As a result you get angry with yourself for no apparent reason. You end up procrastinating, avoiding making decisions, or sorting tasks, and this makes you feel frustrated.

The issue isn’t that you’re an angry, lazy person – it’s that you have no idea what’s controlling you.

In this episode we are looking at

How to Recognise Unconscious Restriction

You’ll discover…

• Who is in control
• When to recognise unconscious restriction
• Stability v stubbornness

​Please do your best to watch/listen to each part in order.

First of all you need to know who is in control. 

You can be certain it’s not you!  If you were in control it would be easy to make decisions.

Restriction dynamics are survival mechanisms locked in your unconscious.  They’re programmed in there to help you steer clear of your feelings.

Why and when would that happen?

 It happens when you associate feelings with fear. 

For example , if you’re thinking of trying something new, the unconscious instruction becomes, “Brace yourself for criticism!”   In other words: freeze!

Freeze then becomes the unconscious restriction.

So when should you recognise unconscious restriction?

You should recognise it when you feel distracted from yourself.

You unintentionally self-sabotage because of a disconnection from wholeness. Your unconscious separates parts of you off from your feelings, and sorts your reactions into little compartments.

You have a compartment for Love, for Upset, Rejection, Criticism, Acceptance  . . .

Everything is kept separated where there is unconscious restriction, rather than realising that all these components should be working together.

Why do you do this?

Because your unconscious is worried that it might access something uncomfortable.  So your conscious instruction is to ignore whatever is actually bubbling under.  You can see this whenever you feel yourself drifting off from owning some emotion or feeling.

So how do you work with stabilising v stubbornness?

The key is to stay present within yourself and ask questions.

What I found I got sucked into for a long time was that it is much easier to drift off with distractions.  The problem with that is that you end up getting nothing done - you just wait.

And that doesn’t work because you simply end up going nowhere.

So what are three little things you can do to get out of unconscious restriction?

1. Choose to stay and hear when you want to run away. When you want to run from what your feelings, just pause a moment to hear what they want to say.  They might be saying something very helpful.
2. Remember to breathe. You know your unconscious has locked into a fear response when you start holding your breath. So - when you feel the panic rising . . . breathe!
3. Recognise the “YES BUT . . . NO BUT . . .” When you’re stubborn and avoiding stabilising your inner world you will come up with excuses. Recognise that these are just excuses and listen to your feelings, even when you don’t want to admit them.

It will take a few goes – BUT you will feel you can move on from Unconscious Restriction 

Remember it’s not about perfect…it's about PROGRESS