You may think you’re “just tired,” but the real drain on your energy might be hidden attachment patterns shaping how you show up in relationships.

These patterns often run beneath your awareness, dictating how you respond to conflict, needs and connection:

• Anxious attachment can leave you over-explaining, people-pleasing and absorbing others’ emotions to avoid feeling abandoned
• Dismissive-avoidant attachment can push you to shut down your needs and emotions, staying busy to keep intimacy at a distance
• Fearful-avoidant attachment can leave you craving closeness while also fearing it, leading to cycles of push-pull in your relationships

These are not flaws in your character. They are strategies your nervous system learned to keep you safe. But now, these same patterns can keep you stuck in exhaustion, tension and emotional confusion.

This connects to your Week 2 journey

In Week 2 of the Mind & Body Workbook, you explore Energetic Freedom. On Day 11 (pages 42 - 43), you’re guided to recognise these attachment styles, not to criticise yourself, but to see where your energy is leaking into unconscious patterns.

As you notice the triggers that activate these attachment styles, you begin to reclaim your emotional energy, stepping into greater clarity about who you are and what you need.

Take this insight into your daily life, like Emma Watson has

Emma Watson has spoken about how she realised much of her drive came from a deep need to please others and prove herself, shaped by societal expectations and personal fears of letting others down. She found that the constant push to perform left her feeling disconnected from her own needs and identity.

By slowing down and stepping back from the noise, she discovered that rest and boundaries are not luxuries but necessities that allowed her to connect with her true self, free from the compulsion to prove her worth.

"It took me a long time to realise I didn’t need to do anything to be enough. I already am."

— Emma Watson

Her journey is a reminder: When you recognise the patterns driving you, you gain the freedom to choose a new path.